We Failed Her…


For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in.  I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me….”  Matthew 25:35-36

This is the story of an old lady named Iris V.  She was my neighbor; lived only one apartment away from mine.  Her only living relative was a brother, but she lived alone.  I think she was divorced but never had children.  She took care of her sick mother.  She would often share her experience about how her mother passed away on her arms.

She spent her lonely days sewing, knitting and making all sorts of beautiful handicrafts.  She was a member of a nearby church.  Even though she was my neighbor, I met her at a Bible study in the apartment below mine.  Her pace was slow and so was her speech.  But she understood everything clearly; her mind was alert and she had lots of memories to share.

On a very sad day; she fell in her bedroom and broke one arm.  Nobody could hear her screams for help; she couldn’t get up.  She spent all night crying with pain on the cold floor of an empty apartment. The next day a lady neighbor from the floor below was the one who discovered what was going on because she was the one who visited Iris V. constantly to check on her.

Iris V. was taken to the hospital and after a while there; she was back in her lonely apartment.  But soon after that, she fell again and this time her brother made the decision of taking her to a nursing home.  Iris V. was happy because she thought that she would continue with her handcrafts; at least she wouldn’t be alone anymore.  She was wrong.

She wasn’t allowed to do anything, just lay on a bed all day.  The nurses said that if she did anything she could hurt herself or hurt somebody else.  The Bible group visited her once in September of last year.  We sang to her, read Bible verses to comfort her but the group leader made the mistake of promising her that the group would visit her at least once a month.  There were plans of visiting her; but for one reason or another; those plans never materialized.  No visit for Thanksgiving, or Christmas, or New Years.  There was no visit for Valentines not even on the Holy Week.  Now summer is here…

Today I saw my next door neighbor Maria.  She told me that she went this past Saturday to visit Iris V at the nursing home.  There she was informed that Iris V. had passed away since June 7.  Her brother had taken care of all the funeral proceedings and never told anyone about it.  Why would he, right?  If her church didn’t bother to visit her, her pastor didn’t even call or send anyone to comfort her, her old neighbors were too busy with their lives….why should he call?

I feel guilty because I only saw her once.  I’m not proud about what I did and I regret not being a good neighbor.  I wasn’t even a good Christian.  And I know I’m not the only one who should feel like this.  She had a church, she had a pastor, she had people who promised to seek her but failed to keep their promise.  Nobody came; just one neighbor who’s not even a Christian.  Shame on us!

While God forgives us this sin; let this be a lesson on how to treat our neighbors.  God really meant it when He said: “Love thy neighbor”.

It would have made a whole lot of difference in the last days of Iris’ life.  We would have obeyed His word….  RIP Iris V.


5 thoughts on “We Failed Her…

  1. Amen! We can’t take those chances to do good for granted. It maybe the only chance we got to do something for someone. But God is merciful and He still loves us. My prayers for you and your family for the loss of your godmother. God Bless You Patty!


  2. This message indeed hit home for me today, I just found out my godmother passed away a few days ago. I never did go back to visit her when I said I would, I called a few times but she was always too tired to talk. I did not want to intrude on her so she could get her rest – how is that for a good excuse. I like what Freedomborn said, with God both of us will move on and learn to care for the other Iris’s and Martha’s. In their honor we can make a difference in someone else’s life.

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  3. Thanks for your comforting and blessed words. It is true what you say…I have learned a great lesson through Iris. I hope I never forget it. That’s why I needed to share it with other people. Thanks again and God Bless you!


  4. Lauriann, we all have regrets, if only we had done this or we should have done that but your sharing with us now is saying sorry to Iris V and she may not hear but God does and He understands your sadness and that your sorry and He knows you care.

    Tomorrow is another day and there are many other Iris V who would Love to see your smile, to feel the touch of your hand, to know you care and understand.

    Christian Love my caring Sister in Christ Jesus – Anne

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